12 Steps: Step Six
Step six in the 12 Steps is about coming to the place where we are willing to change our past behaviors. We must be willing to not only change our patterns of undesirable behavior, but we must also be willing to change the things we are doing which lead to indulging the undesirable behaviors.
Step Six: Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This step assumes that you have already completed step four and that your fearless and searching moral inventory has led to the discovery of patterns of behavior which set you up to indulge your addiction or other undesirable behavior.
It also assumes that you have completed step five and have confessed your issues to yourself, to God and to another faithful person.
If you have not completed step four, and/or you have not completed step five, you need to do so because until you do you really are not ready for step six. The effect of the 12 Steps cannot be fully realized unless you move forward in your recovery step by step.
I was recently reading Psalm 51. That psalm tells the story of King David when he sinned. He had lusted after another man's wife and had an affair with her. She became pregnant and David had her husband killed so he could have her as his wife. In Psalm 51 David is recording his feelings when he was at step six.
Read some of the things David wrote as he was processing this step:
"Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love, according to your great compassion, blot out my transgressions."
"Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin."
"Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
"Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me."
Step six is about an inner transformation. We have realized how our behavior has caused pain in others and ourselves. We feel crushed by our failure and are in desperate need of a power greater than ourselves to restore us. We have realized our need and we are now calling out for help.
We have confessed and asked forgiveness from God - now we are willing to have God change our lives forever. We are ready to be transformed from the person we had become to the person God has purposed for us to be.
We are ready to cry out, "Lord, I am a sinner. I have done things that have hurt myself and others. My behavior has caused a separation between you and me. I ask you to forgive me of all my shortcomings and sins. Cleanse me and make me clean. Wash me with your Holy Spirit that I might be freed from all of those behaviors that have separated us."
If you haven't already prayed that prayer I would encourage you to pray it using your own words to express your desire to have God remove all of the behaviors that have caused you to be where you are today and to change you into the person he intends you to be.
If you have faithfully completed step six of the 12 steps then you are ready to take the plunge into step seven. We have materials which will help you through this process. I encourage you to visit God Walk - Journey of Faith
You will find a lot of good information to help you on your journey of faith and recovery from undesirable behaviors.
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