Steps 2 & 3 of the 12 Steps is covered in Chapter 7 of the book, God Walk a Journey of Faith - CLICK HERE to get a PDF file of that chapter
Step Three in the 12 Steps reminds me of the hit TV show "Who Wants To Be A Millionaire" the question is asked, "Is that your final answer?" For each question there are four choices, only one is correct, and the contestant must choose only one.
You can see their faces reflect concentration as they realize the significance of the choice they are about to make. A wrong choice and they lose; and three out of the four choices are wrong. The right choice and they win up to $1,000,000.
By the time people reach step three in the 12 Step process they are at the $1,000,000 question. There are only two choices, what decision will you make?
Step Three: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
Decision time. Here is the decision which must be made: Will I continue to try to fix this thing on my own or will I finally submit to the power which can restore my inner peace?
The goal of step three in the 12 Steps process is to bring order back into our lives as we submit our will and our lives to God. I know that is a very big step, and a very scary step. We have been in control (or out of control!) of our lives for so long it is difficult to imagine surrendering that control to another power outside of ourselves. That is why this is the $1,000,000 question - it's the toughest.
However, when we consider the alternative, based not on wishful thinking, but based upon the historical facts, the result of continuing to trust ourselves to be in control doesn't present a bright future. There is only one logical choice, but I understand that logic has never gotten into our way before.
It is a tough decision - but it is the right decision. When we turn our will and our life over to God we will find that he will do a much better job of handling our life than we have done.
There is a Scripture verse that parallels the appeal of step three: "Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices. Holy and pleasing to God - which is your spiritual worship" (Romans 12:1)
This step is about conversion. It is converting from trusting ourselves to trusting God. One picture I saw which illustrates this depicts a throne in the middle of a heart and ego sitting on the throne. Then there is a change. The same heart, the same throne, but God is sitting on the throne.
God wants to sit on the throne of your heart, and my heart. The only way he can do that is to move ego, our self-will, off of the throne. It is decision time: are you willing to allow God, the highest power, to sit on the throne of your heart?
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